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Wednesday, September 14, 2011

September Fourteenth

welcome snowman

I’m so ready for Fall and cooler temps so I can turn off the air conditioner… 92 degrees today with mid eighties to low nineties into next week…

I am enjoying another quiet morning with everyone off at school and work and me having a day off… I have dishes piled in the sink and laundry waiting to be put away… bathrooms need cleaning… and I want to do a BIG declutter of the house that will take the next five years… but here I have sat on the laptop all morning… but I actually feel accomplished… as I have posted picnic pictures to facebook and my photo blog Not Just Roses… and scheduled my entry for  The Motivation Station for tomorrow and posted an entry for today… and I have left comments and sent emails… and even clicked on some facebook games but nothing longer than a minute or two…

I was up early this morning although actually slept til 6am and didn’t wake up at 4:30am waiting for it to be 6am like I seem to do lately, to get the boys out the door… and I needed to print out the receipt so son1 can pick up our water heater today after work… then hubby should be able to install it this weekend and we won’t have water all over the garage floor anymore…

I worked last night so wasn’t here for son3’s homework… another reason for being up early to be sure all homework was finished (hubby and son2 do help him) and everything was signed and I had to write a note to the teacher as I didn’t agree to him getting a detention for not doing one math problem that he didn’t understand… but I think son3 misunderstood when she asked whoever didn’t finish their homework to write their name on the board and son3 figured since he didn’t do that problem he didn’t finish… remember the over three hours of homework from Monday night… and then he gets a detention… I don’t think so… Teachers and Doctors, they really shouldn’t mess with me…

meadow snowman

Monday night after all the homework and we had a good time watching Easy A, there was a tense moment when everyone was cleaning up and getting ready for bed… Son1 has a temper… gets it from his Dad… maybe a bit from me… Anyway he was passing son3 in the hall and son3 was being 10 as he does and son1 was being annoyed as he does… and hubby tried to interject not that we usually do as it just sets son1 off more… remember Twilight Zone where you get banned to the corn field by Billy Mumy… that’s how we feel sometimes… so anyway son1 gets defensive like a brother to us and all parental to son3… so I think ok I’m feeling calm, here’s my opportunity to say something… son2 doesn’t want any trouble and says Mom don’t… but I calmly say to son1 that I’ve noticed how we never discipline or correct or ask anything of him as he is 24 and we are trying to respect him as an adult but how it seems so easy for him to parent/discipline/yell at son3 and son2… so he gets all defensive as to how son3 was acting and I tell him this is about how you are acting… why can’t you just ignore him (we also have this problem with son2 and son3 but they are still both under 18 so we expect it)… and I know they are all brothers and it will happen… but it was my chance to let son1 know that we didn’t need his help raising the other boys as much as just his help living in the house, not that I said it like that exactly… just that he needed to stop yelling at them all the time like they have three parents…

So anyway when I got home from work last night son2 and son3 were already asleep but son1 was still awake… he told me that he had made dinner of BBQed burgers and hot dogs with side dishes and had done chores that I can’t remember cause I was so in shock I can’t remember what all he said and that he was going to use his new truck to pick up the water heater ( we could have picked it up in the van)… son1 can be very helpful when he wants to and offers it all the times but usually only follows through at home if it benefits him… and son2 was afraid we would be banned to the corn field…

And speaking of son2 he did his usual rising of everyone’s tempers when he got home from his friends last Saturday as he feels since he is almost 18 our rules are too strict… mostly because we don’t like him out after dark unless he has a ride so we wanted him home at 8pm and he didn’t get home til 9pm and he did get a ride but didn’t let us know… just like he didn’t let us know that he had fallen off his bike on the way there and scraped up his legs and that his friend’s house had a gas leak and the fire department came and that he had gone to Toys R Us… isn’t this why he has a cell phone just to give us a heads up… and we weren’t really mad until we try to state our concerns calmly and he gets all lawyer on us to the point no matter what we say he defends the opposite even if it goes against what he was just defending… so I tell him we have to get out of this habit of everyone getting angry and raising voices when by time we are done we are all laughing and agreeing and understanding each other… but he is a teenager and has to push our buttons first… I also tell him that part of the problem is we can’t get past this one rule of coming home on time which is a 13 year old rule so we can move on to the 15 year old rules… and he’s almost 18… sheesh… I may never let him drive…

Wow yesterday morning flew since I had to go to work and this morning is so nice probably cause I don’t have to go to work… still ten minutes til I would have to get ready if I was doing a closing shift… but I still have over an hour and a half before I have to pick up son3… then I can supervise his homework while I clean the kitchen and such… I’ve got pork chops thawing for tonight's dinner…

garden snowman

Hubby says that his work bought some programs so he can work in the store now instead of at home… but yesterday when he went in to install them internet explorer was conflicting with some things so today he will try again or be hitting the sidewalk to drum up more potential clients…

We still haven’t heard from unemployment…I need to pay some bills today too but we are still ok for the moment… I would just like to be better than ok someday so I can pay off my credit cards… and not have to always rely on them… One day at a time and God knows the plan…

Yesterday went so fast at work… I got nothing done but then partly as I knew I wouldn’t so I didn’t try… I cleaned the sale tables a bit, I had the manager on duty phone not that it was busy more that I was talking to associates and coworkers, it did get busy when it was time to pass the phone off so I didn’t go to dinner til after 6:30pm, then I made the schedule which made me late for closing duties and then it was time to go home… very fast night… and now tomorrow I open instead of close and we have a visit… so I’m glad I’m there in the morning to get ready as they are coming in the afternoon…

Well I could keep talking all day but I think I will go get some chores done as I still have so much time before son3 gets out of school…

Happy Journaling…

2 comments:

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Busy days there for you for sure. When you have a family that is part of the territory it seems. Hope your Thursday is a good one with the visit.

That corgi :) said...

Neat a day off with no one home for a bit! I bet the quiet was so nice and productive!! It is hard when they get to be so close to 18 and I think it is hard when they are still in school and 18, because they are "adult" in the eyes of the law but the school still calls you if there is a problem. Son was good about coming home on time, but would occasionally sneak out afterwards in the middle of the night. Love those teen years (not).

betty