.

.

Thursday, December 3, 2009

December...


I did it! Blog every day of November... and then December comes and I don't... lol... actually the last two days of November I fell asleep, luckily Holly stepped in and added some photos for an entry....
I don't know why I stop blogging... I want to be a better blogger... I want to read blogs but I don't... Why... I have no problem spending endless hours playing facebook games... I think I'm hibernating... but then what would it have been called in the summer...
This has been a good week but a not so good week... I worked Sunday 6am-2 setting the ad... barely finished by 2 and I had help... we are way tore up from Black Friday... Monday I was off and the boys went back to school, hubby went to work, son1 had to work and I had a whole day just for me... It was heaven... Then son1 came home from work and announce he was going to his grandfather's for a couple of days since he had a couple of days off... Tuesday I awoke with a gurgily tummy and a thought that I was owed a sick day from work since I only took one this whole year so far, so I called out... Another day of heaven all to myself... Don't remember what I did on which day but I cleaned and Christmas shopped online, watched old episodes of Emergency, watched The Holiday (actually I think that was Sunday) such a cute movie with Jude Law, Jack Black, Cameron Diaz and Kate Winslet... hung out on the laptop, not blogging though, mostly facebook games... homework with son3...
Then Wednesday I was off again... had a quiet morning... then son3 came home from school and my quiet days were over and I was forced back into reality a half day earlier than I wanted... he had gotten in trouble in class but couldn't remember why... I thought he just didn't want to tell me as he would be in more trouble but I kept telling him the teacher already punished him, he was only in trouble with me for not telling me.... I guess her class rule is when they break a rule they have to pick up so many half sheets of multiplication facts to work... about 50 problems each side but each side counts as one... son3 was up to 19 by time he got home... took him 2 and a half hours to finish... plus one hour and 20 minutes for regular homework... he and son2 are slow when it comes to homework... son2 kicked in about fifth grade where he was finally able to manage his homework on his own and in a timely manner... so there is hope for son3... anyway I finally found out what he had done all day... seems he got four problems wrong on his homework so missed first recess and had to read... since he missed math homework shouldn't he do math work... and since when do you get punished for doing homework... then he dazed out two times in class and wasn't paying attention... and then he forgot to write one homework assignment on his agenda the day before ( we did the homework, it was in the folder)... so I was quite grumpy at the teacher at this point and wondered if she was having a grumpy day... son3 says she wasn't mad at anyone, he was just getting in a little bit of trouble that day... so we finally finish all the drama of homework, have dinner, girlfriend came over, son3 is bouncing off the ceiling and happy that homework is done... although I am telling him he is too happy for someone that was in trouble... settle him bed with his Wolverine cartoon... son1 and girlfriend are watching Christmas Vacation... son2 went to sleep... hubby and I are watching Glee... 10pm son3 is complaining his tummy is not feeling not so good, but I tell him he is fine... I'm thinking fate won't allow me to have another day off of work... so girlfriend has gone home, we are all asleep... Midnight comes and we hear MOM.... BLAH......... all over his bed he throws up.... OK I guess your tummy is not so good and I get to have another day off to make up for my bad regular day off....
So this morning I call me out again, call son3 out of school... son2 has a two hour foggy day delay for buses, hubby is off to work, son1 doesn't work til 2pm... girlfriend came over... son3 woke up at 10am, took a shower and proceeded to bounce all over the house all day... he didn't eat til 3pm though, just a waffle... and lemon lime soda all day... hubby is home, son2 is home, son3 is starving... I told hubby to go get Carl's Jr as all I've been doing for four days is eating.... Bones and Fringe come on tonight...
Hubby and I have been so stressed since son1 moved in... he is not taking responsibility or making any plans or goals... he is comfortable in our home but we are not... as he is very opinionated of what he dislikes... I don't know... I don't want to complain about him in my blog but then that is what the blog is for to work through things and share stories and help each other through the rough patches... I know he's just a kid and learning about life... but he keeps dumping everything in my lap waiting for me to fix it and I am not... so all our work of getting him caught up is falling behind again... he makes promises to us and others and doesn't keep them... as each day is new and whatever happened yesterday has gone away... ummmm no it hasn't.... every month you have to pay that bill again... so why does it seem a surprise when it comes in the mail or the phone rings with a friendly reminder...
Next year is almost here and a whole new decade before us... I have my own goals and bills that I need to address and pay for my own responsibilities... and even though son1 is a former responsibility I can only hope that someday all that we have taught him will come in handy soon... instead of him just thinking the world is against him and keeps taking his money... That's life... be glad you have the money for them to take... I am.... each year hubby and I keep getting through, amazed at how we make it on our little retail jobs... we're amazed we were able to help son1 a bit the last few months and still have something left, although that extra we used for him was supposed to pay down our own credit cards a bit more... so anyway I'm just frustrated that we keep giving him advice and he just ignores us and waits til its down to the wire and mad cause we aren't just handing him more money... and then he's kinda rude and makes comments in front of us in our house where we are welcoming him with open arms...
so that is why I shut down from blogging cause don't want to whine but hard just to write happy thoughts with all the ugly thoughts in my head... so I think I'm hiding in the facebook games...
My Carl's Jr is here and I made a chocolate cake... Back to work tomorrow for the next three days... so I can work off all these calories I have consumed the last four days....
Hubby just finished sorting through the Carl's Jr bags and seems we got our four fries and someone else' s four cross cut fries... is that to make up for son1 calling while I was ordering my Car's Jr to complain about another creditor taking funds out of his bank account that he promised them and now he is overdrawn... I can't seem to get through a whole day without son1 drama... son3 is only 8 and seems some days I never even see him or son2... but son1 has drama every day....
I'm off to drown my sorrows in cross cut fries and start anew tomorrow...

Took these pictures through the dining room window today....


Holly was lurking below... I think I see a Putty Cat...


Much safer up in the tree....

Happy Journaling...


5 comments:

That corgi :) said...

(((((Linda))))) loved the bird pictures

sorry son3 had a bad day at school and was also sick; not fair at all

sorry you weren't feeling well that day

start a private blog; good to get some of these things off your chest; even if you don't allow anyone in to read, it is still good to get all these things off your chest

you know son1 appreciates the help you are giving him, he just expresses it perhaps in not the best way but I have to believe he does appreciate the help. when I compare what I was doing at 20 with what my son is doing at 20 I cringe and wonder if he'll ever grow up but then he has those moments when things "click" and he gets it (they are just few and far between LOL) but its coming. I think it will click for son1 too. Thing is how much of you will you lose in the process and that is always hard to figure out and wonder if it is worth it.

still working on that myself

betty

Linda's World said...

It's tough when they come back home at that age. I hope as this next year progresses, he becomes a little more responsible. And I hope no one else gets the pukes. You almost had a vacation this last week...Remember, some day these will be the good old days. Linda in below freezing Washington

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

You have way more patience with your son1 than I'd have for sure. When they are that age taking responsibility should have kicked in already. Some take a little longer than others and some just really never learn. Sadly I've seen some adults that are still like that. Being a parent is not easy and never ends either.

Barbara said...

I can relate to what you said with Son1, it can be so frustrating. I hope things click for him soon.
Hope the new year is a better one in that department.
Sorry to hear that son 3 had a bad day at school, some of it did seem a bit harsh on the teachers part.
Barbara

Tina said...

It is hard to parent a young adult! You love them, and want them to be okay, but they have so much they need to do for themselves now. I don't agree with lots of decisions that my kids make, but I try to be quiet and let them learn.

I know you are in a tougher spot now, because he is home. That would be hard! It seems to me like you are a great mom and doing pretty well under the circumstances.