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Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Wedded Bliss

The boys are off to school, they have been back to school a whole week now... Hubby is off to work... and son1 is off to his grandpa's to work on his car... I am home all alone... well except for the hamster, cat and two dogs.... I have run the dishwasher, am on the second load of laundry, taken pictures of what few roses I have in the backyard, made a to do list, sewn the head back on Danny's toy dog, scrolled around facebook, fed the cat and had cola and popcorn for breakfast cause it's that kinda week... Now I'm watching an episode of Emergency and regrouping... I'm still having trouble getting back into the flow of writing... I think it's cause I have been a bit stressed and my journal is supposed to be my happy place... Don't want to be grumbly but think I'm gonna have to, to get the words flowing again... I had a bit of a meltdown the other day and poor hubby and son2 got the most of it... Hubby's sure most of the stress is from son1 moving back home, but that is only part of it... Being pulled between the boys, the pets, work, the house, and now school starting we've all been snapping at each other and we all have a habit of talking over each other and debating to the point that even hubby and I aren't always on the same team... don't worry there's lots of laughing too but we all snap too easily... and hubby and I have not had much alone time together for years now, lol, so that when we went out for our anniversary lunch and shopping, it took a bit of time for me to relax without the feeling that we weren't getting anything done, lol... hubby's the best we just let life get the best of us and forget about just us... I keep telling hubby I'm having his midlife crisis for him and mine too, lol...


We took son2 and son3 to see GI Joe on Saturday... It was really good... especially where they destroyed half the city trying to get to the Eiffel Tower to save all the people, lol.... Son1 had already seen it when he got back from his road trip... He has been quite the social guy since he's been back, catching up with friends or showing his true self now that he has been moved out of his apartment almost seven weeks... He's been going to the movies, concert, birthday party, I think he has only eaten dinner with us once since he's been back, took Pistol swimming at the river; he did his laundry, but my backyard is full of poop, he hasn't cleaned up the front room or made his bed, I know he doesn't have much place to put all his clothes and stuff but he can at least straighten it up... I told him he was solely responsible for the dogs but I still find myself checking to see if he fed them and given them water... he said not to feed them even if he's late but hubby couldn't let the dogs wait til ten at night so he fed them.... He also traded his car with some guy on Craig's list... they were both selling their cars for the same price and wanted what the other had so just evenly traded... I thought the plan was to sell his car so he could pay off his friend who loaned him the money two years ago... so that is why he is at his grandpa's today so they can put the exhaust pipes back on that the previous owner cut off... and it needs a turn single cover... it has a third of the miles on it his car had... it's a 1991 mustang fox something or other... everyone said he got a great deal... I'll just be glad when he settles it at the DMV and gets insurance... and pays off his friend someday.... he did fill out an application for Auto Zone yesterday... I've been trying not to advise him too much although I'll make a comment here or there not that I've seen him too much but he did live on his own for over two years and I still think he took care of girlfriend more than she took care of him unless together they made a whole person... I just get so annoyed with all my boys on little things that they should know like spelling and filling out forms and not using a purple pen to fill out your pink slip...

Son2 of course knows everything and wants to take college classes in high school but not do anything but play games and watch TV and not learn time management.... With this English class we told him he would have homework and he has but since his classes are every other day he thinks he can wait til the next day to do the homework... argh.... and he has homework on the weekend now... so we try to get him to do it early, he wants to spread it out and get distracted, he wants us to help him when he understands it more than we do, and then he finishes in about ten minutes after hours of us yelling and then he spends three hours on the phone helping his friend write her paper after he gave us all the grief that he needed help... argh... so that was most of our weekend... and him wanting a haircut... and me waiting for him to do his chores... still waiting.... he did bring me his laundry today...

Son3 has jumped right back into routine of school and not having video games during the week.... he's still liking his teacher... hubby has done homework with him the past two days, my turn today... it's a good thing we went to back to school night so we know a bit of what's going on with the homework... he's already passed his 2x multiplication test and had his first AR test for his library book he read... still trying to figure out if the spelling homework he brought home is his actual spelling words for the week.... He loved the GI Joe movie except for too many kissing scenes, lol.... he brought his Duke GI Joe action figure and he sat in the cup holder between us.... Being in third grade now I also took some chores away from son2 not that he was doing them, lol, and passed them on to son3... so now son3 is in charge of taking out the recycables and garbage...



Two Emergency shows later and I am still writing.... We finished Season 5 of Buffy... will have to wait for season 6 and 7 for Christmas... The new Fall shows will be starting next month, yay, no writer's strike this year.... Work has been crazy as usual... at least we don't have any visits coming... new procedures coming though... lost some associates from the department again and have some new ones... tons of boxes coming in so between setting the ad and opening boxes I don't get much more done.... and we had our big back to school weekend, not as bad as last year, but still as bad as the day after Thanksgiving... We're losing control of the backyard... so wish son1 hadn't taken on another dog... I wish he would change his mind and give him back, it's only been a month or so... hubby hasn't been able to spray for weeds and the grass is turning brown... I only go out for maybe five minutes a week, my roses barely have any buds on them this summer... maybe when it cools down they will think it is spring again... we're waiting for son1 to step up but he may be seeing my wrath soon... I'm trying to treat him like a grown up but he's not been acting like one much... giving him a bit of grieving time for losing his apartment, job, girlfriend... but he's not worrying about me making sacrifices for him.........
Well have I rambled on long enough... if I get back to doing this every day won't be so much of a ramble... just never enough time in the day... like now, only an hour til I pick up son3 and start homework and think about dinner... so better go eat lunch and take a look at my list.....

Happy Journaling...


5 comments:

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Happy Anniversary. I'm glad you and hubby got some time out together. It is important to do that for sure. I hope things settle down a bit for you. Sometimes you just have to make time for yourself too. 'On Ya'-ma

Lisa said...

Wishing you a happy anniversary. It sounds like you have alot going on, it's no wonder you had a meltdown. I don't have kids so I can't fully appreciate how much stress that must be but I can imagine you can lose yourself easily. I hope things settled down for you and the stress lightens up.

a corgi said...

(((Linda)))) see I truly understand everything you are going through with son1. mine is just 2 years younger than son1, but....the issues are still there.....and what do you do? you know he should be pulling his weight, let he is out partying and halfway looking for work, and the frustrations keep growing (oh wait, maybe I'm just speaking about us, but I think you/me are almost on the same page with sons). then you feel guilty if you think you might want to throw them out because where would they go......

writing is a good way to get out your frustrations; even if no one might read it or you might end up deleting things, writing is still a good way to get out frustrations

happy anniversary! it is hard these days to "pull it all together" and have relationship with spouse on top of all the things going on; just hang in there......

son2 - typical teenager --- what to do about him?? still trying to figure that one out and my son is 20 years old, LOL

son 3 --- good for him getting his 2's down for multiplication!

hugs to you!!!!!!!!!!!

betty

sheri said...

You are always on the go with something..lol..
Yes, you do need some alone time with hubby..now to find the time to make it happen.lol.
It can be hard when kids return home. As you say, they want to be treated as adults, but it is easy for them to fall back into the role of letting Mom take care of things. Best thing to do is to have a set list of things that he is responsible for..
Have a wonderful week-end,
Sheri

ADB said...

Hi Linda,
It's usually quite beneficial to have a rant every now and again, to get it all back in perspective. I'm glad there is a lot of laughter as well as the gripes. Have a good week.